ADHD Awareness Month - And Other Stuff
ADHD Awareness Month - And Other Stuff
I wrote a post yesterday, then things changed...
A week ago, I had my subconscious world shaken.
I learned a new way to try to “pass things along to my subconscious” and have been having an uncomfortable conversation with myself ever since.
One of my big realizations was that I was going a little too much into “it’s all ADHD related”, and was stepping back to look things from a broader perspective.
I was writing about that yesterday, but it felt a bit long and convoluted, so I put it aside and went to the mountains with my wife to ‘peep the leafs.’
A Beautiful Afternoon, 6,000 ft above sea-level
It was beautiful, a perfect fall day, so instead of driving around looking for trees outside, we then went for a hike. Instead of driving by, we got up close and personal.
That took us through the better part of the afternoon, then I rushed down to the flatland to collect our youngest from ‘TV club’ at a friends house. Then it was Monday Night Game Night, so I drove to the neighboring town to play games with some friends.
Needless to say, that post that said I was going too hard on ADHD didn’t happen yesterday.
ADHD Awareness - Interactive Mode
As I said in the title, October is ADHD Awareness Month. I knew that, but forgot it. I also forgot that today was the first day of October.
I didn’t remember it when I got up, I didn’t remember while going through my morning in a fog.
No, I might have remembered, but I was lucky enough to wake with the dreaded “I Can’t” brain that sometimes shows up, usually when you’ve got plans.
Yesterday, I was worried that I was blaming everything on ADHD.
Today, I’m staring the reality that sometimes “everything can be blamed on ADHD.”
So, I’m just rolling with it.
If you don’t have ADHD, but have someone in your life who does… please be kind to them. Always be kind, but this month maybe take an opportunity to see what they see as kind. Find out how you can empower them to chase their dreams.
Don’t. Do NOT just be nice or give them things, that’s not what they want or need. Instead, recognize that they have hopes and dreams in their life. Think of them as having thoughts just like you, but that sometimes their body is unwilling to participate. So, ask what would help feel like they’re able to do more.
Pivoting and Re-Pivoting in Subject Matter
My thoughts yesterday remain, people with ADHD can sometimes get caught up in the hopelessness of ADHD and think that they can’t be successful because of it.
To use my daughter’s words, they’ve weaponized their ADHD to allow them to be incompetent. Harsh words… but spoken with love.
The truth is that ADHD can get in the way, some days it will literally tackle you and pin you to the ground, but there are ways to handle it. Whether it’s medication, permission to ‘slack’ or systems to make life’s challenges easier, there is always another option.
So, a yesterday when I wasn’t remembering what this month was raising awareness about, I was vowing to spend less focus on ADHD specifically. Today, between the month and my brutal reminder, I acknowledge that I’ll still bring it up, but try to keep it in it’s place.
I’ll dig into my post from yesterday in the future.
Gratitude and Blessings
I keep saying in the Notes in the Substack that the community, which is primarily writers and probably a lot of people focused on coaching and self-improvement, is such a blessing to have. I encounter 0 negativity, even when I’m feeling plenty of my own. So I’m saying it again. I’m so grateful to be in that writing community, or with those readers and people who are so forgiving and kind. It helps a ton.
I’m also thankful to
for the help with my subconscious. Love it or hate it, there are boulders rolling around in my brain lately and for the foreeable future.I’m thankful to you, finally, for making it to the end.
Post in the comments if I should really be reading these as a voice-over. I will never do it if I think it’s pointless.